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NAME: Benjamin Samuel Callaghan
AGE/ D.O.B: 31/August 16, 1977
WHERE IN THE PORTLAND AREA DO YOU CURRENTLY LIVE?: Yamhill County
WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP ARE YOU SEARCHING SINGLED.COM FOR?: Friendship/Romantic
WHAT IS YOUR SEXUAL PREFERENCE?: Heterosexual (bring on the chicks)
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS? WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO PUT THE WORK REQUIRED INTO ONE?: It really depends how much we see each other. If we're in a relationship I want to be close to them but not like...neighbors.
WHAT IS YOUR CURRENT OCCUPATION? DO YOU ENJOY YOUR JOB?: I currently works as a security guard for a bank and a small senior living home (though the senior living home job I works at night more so than the evening).
DOES YOUR CURRENT JOB REQUIRE A GREAT DEAL OF OUT OF STATE TRAVELLING?: Not it don't. I have a pretty much dead end job that will end up with me being called 'rent-a-cop' until the day I die.
ARE YOU CURRENTLY SINGLE/WIDOWED/DIVORCED? WOULD YOU PREFER TO BE WITH SOMEONE OF THE SAME STATUS?: Single and I don't really give a damn.
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PHYSICAL TRAIT YOU LOOK FOR IN A POTENTIAL MATCH?: Legs and eyes. I like anything involving the body and a woman who knows how to use hers.
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PHYSICAL TRAIT YOU AVOID WHEN LOOKING FOR A POTENTIAL MATCH?: Someone who doesn't take care of herself really. I want someone confident in with herself; but I'm not going to go into the entire concept of 'No fat chicks'. That's just rude. I do want someone who will end up working out with me in the morning.
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT EMOTIONAL TRAIT ?: Someone who is...emotionally open? I don't want a womanly sort of girl who thrives on drama and gossip more than she could easily distinguish that sometimes I don't amuse as easily as other people.
WHAT EMOTIONAL TRAIT DO YOU AVOID?: Well personally the too emotional sort of woman. I don't want them to carry on grudges from the past or whatever.
WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSONALITY TRAIT?: Someone who is open-minded. Someone who won't down ideas because they're too crazy or too wild; I don't want someone who will hold me back from something that could potentially be a valuable life experience. But than again that's just me.
WHAT PERSONALITY TRAIT DO YOU AVOID?: People who are downers all the time. Personally it annoys me. I try to avoid people who seem to be depressed or too...focused on the darker sides of life.
IF SOMEONE HAD AN EVEN MIX OF POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE TRAITS, WOULD YOU CONTINUE TO SEE THEM?: I think I would. I think it depends on the traits above anything else. I don't want a lot of negative traits but I don't want someone being all Stepford on me. That'd just keep me the hell out really.
ARE YOU WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP?: Depends on the sacrifices. If my girlfriend is going to be one of those needy girls who call me twenty four seven. They would give me the space I need when it comes to work and private lives. I won't miss work for them unless it's an emergency.
WHAT IS YOUR DEEPEST REGRET?: That I'm...like I am. I'm just a big disappointment all the way around I'm warning you now.
WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT TO DATE?: Graduating high school. Hah! Actually I think it's been getting out of my mom's house before the age of 25.
WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST FEAR?: Dying...actually. You should see me watching the news, it's like Chicken Little. I hate the news and everything pertaining to it. Especially when it deals with the six o'clock news. I'm fricking weird.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE MOVIE? WHY?: The Goonies. I was just always into it, I guess. When I was little I would go out in the back yard with my friends and pretend that we were doing that shit. I was never that fat kid...I was more like the Sean Astin of the group which is considerably better.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE BOOK? WHY?: Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman. Well it's not the only book I've finished per say, but I'm thinking it's one of the ones I can read over and over again.
WHAT IS YOUR CURRENT FINANCIAL STATUS?: Struggling. I'm a security guard not really racking in the cash but I get enough to support myself and pay off the rent. Which is slightly better than nothing at all if you know what I mean.
WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE OF A DIFFERENT FINANCIAL STATUS? WHY OR WHY NOT?: Sure. It doesn't really matter how much money someone has or doesn't have just as long as they don't flaunt it in my face all the damn time.
HOW MUCH OF A ROLE DOES MONEY PLAY IN YOUR LIFE AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?: Just getting me by in life. I don't spend money every chance I get but I don't just make my life devoid of anything fun money could bring. I'd get bored way to fast.
DOES YOUR JOB REQUIRE LONG HOURS? WOULD YOU BE COMFORTABLE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO WORKED LONG HOURS?: Yeah...but it's not always the same schedule every single week. Someone I date would have to understand I'm not living on their schedule...I'm not even living on my own. I live on my work's schedule (since I'm trying to be...responsible)
DESCRIBE YOUR IDEAL FIRST DATE?: My ideal first date...hmm. I'm thinking going out to the park with a picnic dinner (I don't like first dates during the day). Just chilling out for a while and talking for the most part. Nothing that special.
DO YOU THINK IT IS POSSIBLE TO ACHIEVE THE PERFECT MATCH THROUGH SINGLED.COM?: I have absolutely no idea. I'm just hoping to get a couple dates.
WHAT DO YOU THINK IS THE BIGGEST FAUX PAX PEOPLE MAKE WHEN MEETING NEW PEOPLE?: I think it's talking to much about yourself. Some people just make it so that they lay out their entire life stories the first time they meet someone when actually just getting to know a little about a person the first time they meet is the way to go.
WHAT DO YOU THINK IS THE BEST WAY TO GO ABOUT MEETING NEW PEOPLE?: Just walking up to them and talking to them. I'm not the roundabout sort of guy, especially when it comes to meeting new people. The roundabout way is just a waste of time.
DO YOU PREFER A TRADITIONAL STYLE OF RELATIONSHIP? WHY OR WHY NOT?: What exactly is the traditional style of relationship? Giving someone a pin, letterman jacket, and asking to go steady? If so...not so much. I'm a firm believer in whatever someone deems traditional is traditional to them. I find it traditional to kiss on the first date so I'll kiss on the first date. Second date...inappropriate touching and PDA. Third date is either awkward sex or breaking up.
DO YOU PREFER PRIVATE OR PUBLIC SETTINGS FOR DATES?: Depends on the date really. Private if I just want to spend time with my significant other but if I really don't care and want to flaunt what I got I'd go public with my date.
DO YOU HAVE ANY CHILDREN? WOULD YOU LIKE TO HAVE CHILDREN IN THE FUTURE?: As far as I know I don't have kids. If I did? I probably wouldn't want to know with how long it's probably been. As far as having kids in the future...I'm thinking...in the future. But not when I'm some old, twenty years left sort of future.
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT ADOPTION?: Depends on the circumstances I'd say. I wouldn't adopt while I'm single but if I'm with someone and we can't have a kid than sure.
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT ABORTION?: If it's not the product of rape I actually don't believe in it. Sure 'a woman's choice'. But most of the time? Women have a choice to open their legs and get pregnant in the first place so just "eliminating" the problem is idiotic to me.
ON WHAT SIDE OF THE POLITICAL SPECTRUM DO YOUR BELIEFS LIE?: None? I don't really like politics per say. I believe in putting in my voice in but as far it goes I'm one of those doomed liberals.
WOULD YOU PREFER SOMEONE WITH THE SAME POLITICAL BELIEFS? WHY OR WHY NOT?: I really don't care. I don't want someone who will force me make a decision, it's really annoying in that case. I get enough of it from my family.
WHAT IS YOUR CURRENT PRACTICED RELIGION?: None of the above? I don't really practice anything there wasn't something
WOULD YOU PREFER SOMEONE OF THE SAME RELIGIOUS BELIEFS? WHY OR WHY NOT?: I really don't. Like I said me...no practice. It'd be nice to be dating someone who has some sort of religious background I guess but it's never been for me.
ARE YOU A NEAT FREAK? WOULD YOU BE COMFORTABLE DATING SOMEONE WHO WAS/WAS NOT?: I am a closet neat freak actually, and yes I would be comfortable if someone is or isn't just as long as they don't expect me to wait on them hand and foot.
DO YOU ENJOY COOKING?: I do, yes. After all I'm a growing boy living on my own. What? You think it's all take out? I have a figure to maintain people!
DO YOU ENJOY THE OUTDOORS? WHAT OUTDOOR ACTIVITY DO YOU ENJOY THE MOST?: Yeah I do. I'd rather be outside than in but it's entirely possible for me to be a homebody if all else fails. I don't like it when it's too sunny out, that's for sure. As for outdoor activity, I actually like camping.
DO YOU ENJOY CULTURAL EVENTS SUCH AS THE THEATER AND GALLERY OPENINGS? WHAT CULTURAL ACTIVITY DO YOU ENJOY THE MOST?: I'm not a...cultural sort of guy. If it's something like concerts than sure but theater and gallery openings would be too boring for me. I have attention issues.
WOULD YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE TEACHING SOMEONE ELSE ABOUT THE ACTIVITIES YOU ENJOY?: Sure yeah. It depends on what activities they want to learn because some are...awkward.
WOULD YOU RATHER SPEND THE NIGHT IN OR OUT?: It depends on the night actually. I like either spending time in or out. I'm easy to please.
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT DATING PEOPLE YOUNGER THAN YOURSELF?: Sure why not.
HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT DATING PEOPLE OLDER THAN YOURSELF?: Just not...sickeningly older. If they're senile than no. But someone who's like in their forties than I'm fine.
WOULD YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE DATING SOMEONE OUTSIDE OF YOUR OWN RACE?: ... It's a new day and a new age. Separating between races is caveman speak. That's just like sexuality nowadays; not that I'm someone who would date a dude. I'm open minded towards the idea.
DESCRIBE YOURSELF IN FIVE WORDS OR LESS. DO YOU BELIEVE ALL THESE TRAITS ARE POSITIVE? ARE SOME NEGATIVE?: Handsome, brilliant, lovable, reliable, and underestimated. I'd think most of these traits are positive but when it comes to underestimated I'm thinking that's a negative factor.
WHAT DO YOU DISLIKE MOST ABOUT YOURSELF?: I'm not good enough to be in the family I'm in. Or at least that's how I feel. Don't get me wrong it's nice having...the sisters I have. But all the talent and success skipped me.
ARE YOU MORE ANALYTICAL ( LEFT BRAINED ) OR CREATIVE ( RIGHT BRAINED )?: Both? I'm more creative than I am analytical when it comes down to specifics. That and analytical gets really boring after a while.
DO YOU AGREE WITH THE STATEMENT OPPOSITES ATTRACT?: Yeah, why shouldn't I? If someone likes someone than more power to them. But if they don't than they're too opposite.
WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN A YEAR? IN FIVE? IN TEN?: Personally? In a year I'm thinking I'll be in the same position I am only dating. Five I'll hopefully have a better job and a steady girlfriend. Maybe even engaged. And in ten? I see myself married and with kids. But not a lot. Just a tiny bit.
YOU'RE OFFERED A CHOICE BETWEEN A STRAIGHT PATH LEADING TO THE PERFECT LIFE OR A PATH FILLED WITH TWIST AND TURNS LEADING TO AN UNDEFINED DESTINATION. WHICH WOULD YOU CHOOSE?: The path filled with twists and turns and whatever the fuck. It's more fun that one. Plus, there's no such thing as a perfect life so it's pretty much a moot point to choose that.